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I paid for my bridesmaids hotels so they would hang out with me the night before my wedding. We have been friends for 20 years. They went bar hopping. I’ve barely slept in days and don’t have it in me to get drunk nor do I want to the night before my wedding.
They have done absolutely nothing this entire time. No bridal party, no bachelorette party, no anything. I have paid for everything that so they wouldn’t have to come out of pocket even though they make way more than me.
I’m just heartbroken. They have put a dark cloud over what should be a happy time for me. I don’t even know how to move forward after the wedding. Just venting I guess.
Edit/update: I just want to thank everyone for such an outpouring of support and well wishes from everyone. I’m tearing a bit as write this so thank you all.
My MOH said she thought I was going to bed bc I said I was tired (which I was 6 hours sleep the past two night) so she assumed I was going to bed. She seemed to genuinely feel bad.
My bridesmaid was just like oh we should’ve knocked on your door. It didn’t seem to register.
I am rereading my fiancés letter that we exchanged two nights ago and focusing on how incredible it is that someone actually loves me that much.
Second update: my MOH updated our room to the HONEYMOON SUITE. She decorated it with rose petals and champagne everywhere. I think she felt really bad and wanted to show me she does care. He speech was also very heartfelt. So I definitely going to forgive her and chalk it up to being too into what’s going on on her own stuff. My bridesmaid is another story.
✨✨ITS YOUR WEDDING DAY!!!!! ✨✨AHHHHH!!!! 🎉💍🍾I’m so freaking excited for you and your partner and you are going to be the most beautiful bride! 🤍Crazy how months of planning all comes together for one day, and it’s gonna go by fast!
Let anything that may bother you today roll right off your shoulders. If it’s something that’s gonna stress or worry you, put it aside. You realize something is not going as planned? Pivot, and let’s make the next best solution work. Somebody wanna bring up drama? Shut up, we gonna Pivot and talk about good times instead.
Don’t fall into the rabbit hole of venting anymore today. Let’s take a moment to breathe and appreciate what you have built around you because you HAVE👏🏼WORKED👏🏼SO👏🏼HARD👏🏼 for this day and you want to remember all of the amazing moments and how loved you are by your partner and by your friends and family that are here. Deep Breathe in. Deep breathe out.
Enjoy the crap out of your day. Deal with the rest of that other crap tomorrow. Today is about you and your soon to be spouse. It’s about love and your commitment to each other. Nothing else matters today except that YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED!!!! 💕💕
I’m so sorry. I know that must feel like crap, but have you told them that you wanted to hang out tonight? Did you have a rehearsal dinner? If you didn’t plan anything, it’s quite possible that they assumed you had plans with your family and so they made their own plans. I dont mean to discredit how you are feeling, but I just want to highlight that this might not be intentional on their part. Every bride had different desires and expectations, so they might have assumed you didn’t want a bridal shower/bachelorette party if you didn’t ask for it.
When I booked the hotels, and if them if they could come in tonight so we could spend the night before together and get ready together. They also don’t want to get up when the MUA gets here because they’ll be too tired (but they’re bar hopping…) so they’ll be coming to my room after my hair and makeup done (which I’m paying for as well).
I didn’t get a bachelorette party, either, and when she came down for one of my bridal showers, we were supposed to go get our nails done and do a bunch of fun things and we ended up just doing stuff at my house and I paid for everything.
Your wedding is going to be beautiful tomorrow and so are you, you’re going to be well rested and not hungover or puffy and you’re going to have the most amazing day! Everything is going to be alright but just know your feelings are beyond valid and what’s going on SUCKS!
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