Wedding Photos in Wilmington, NC
Disclaimer: The photo above does not depict the couples mentioned in this article. It is included solely for illustrative purposes, while certain Reddit threads I discovered online have proven useful.
I have a disability and can't stand for very long and I'm not sure what to do at the altar. In my day to day life I use a cane or walker and sit down if I have to stand for more than a few minutes.
Stools? Chairs? I don't want it to look out of place and still want to be at a height to be seen by all the guests. My fiance wants to be at the same level as me so if I'm sitting he will too.
Any ideas or advice from people who've been in similar situations would be appreciated :)
(We don't have a venue chosen yet so that can be part of my decision)
At most catholic weddings they put two chairs for the couple to sit in while the priest gives his homily - you could look for photos of those ceremonies for inspiration. I’ve seen it where the two chairs are next to each other, at an angle, so you can face the officiant. My cousin was in a wheelchair for her wedding and did the same, she stood briefly to give her vows but otherwise sat in a chair with her husband during the ceremony. They also had their bridesmaids/groomsmen sitting in the first row so there wouldn’t be a height discrepancy
I think I have also seen some religious ceremony (but no clue what one) where they had a bench that the bride and groom sat on facing the officiant with backs to the crowd. Similar to a Catholic ceremony when you are kneeling. Then with an open bench the crowd can still kind of see you but you get some privacy of facing away from them to focus on your partner and the officiant.
My daughter has Dysautonomia/ POTS and EDS. She is 20 and also uses a cane. I want her to be a bridesmaid. I have been considering how to accommodate her being able to sit during our ceremony. I want to normalize for our guests, that those with a disability can and should be accommodated so they can participate in life. Whatever you do, don’t feel like you need to make your guests more comfortable. Do it for yourself.
POTS and EDS is what I have as well! Thanks for the encouragement :)
You are 100% welcome. Life is hard enough navigating the day to day with these conditions. Much less the many people who can’t understand just how impactful they are on your ability to function because you “look healthy.” You don’t owe it to anyone to fulfill their expectations of you seemingly functioning at 100% on what is a very tiring day for anyone.
Yes! As long as you're able to get up there.
Or an amphitheatre like the ceremony at the UC Berkeley Botanical Gardens. Just for inspo, I don't know if you're in the Bay but there are plenty of pics online. You'll be in view.
At my wedding we were sitting on two chairs on a stage, facing the people and the officiant. We only stood up to say our vows and to exchange rings. This was actually the most I sat all day. It's the reception that would possibly be more difficult to sit down because you want to go around to talk to everyone. So maybe it is good to think how you want to manage that situation.
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